Peer Counseling

STRESS ISN’T ALWAYS A BAD WORD!

When we think of “stress,” what comes to mind? It’s bad, right? Uncomfortable. Unhealthy. If that’s the case, you’re not alone. Many people view all stress as bad. (We can even stress about stress!) As Juliette Tocino-Smith writes (https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-eustress), “The idea that ‘stress is bad’ is problematic, if not harmful, to our health. Belief plays […] Read More »

Supervisory Credibility

Keith D. Bushey is a longtime veteran of law enforcement. He retired as a commander from the Los Angeles Police Department, as a deputy chief from the San Bernardino County Sheriff’s Department and as a colonel from the Marine Corps Reserves. He served as an LASD deputy, a state deputy game warden, marshal of San […] Read More »

LIFE WITH ALCOHOL

Do you drink more than you plan to at times, maybe at off-training parties or the end of your shift? Why not … you work hard, so why not play harder? Maybe you tell yourself it’s OK to let loose on the weekends because you don’t touch alcohol during the week. Maybe you try to […] Read More »

CONFLICT PROFICIENCY

Working for the L.A. County Sheriff’s Department means you have no choice but to deal with people, not to mention everyone you know in your personal life. Because we have relationships, conflicts are bound to be part of our lives. Tell me if this sounds familiar: You get into an argument and nothing is accomplished, […] Read More »

“MUSCLE” MEMORY

Adam Dachis of LifeHacker writes, “Muscle memory is not a memory stored in your muscles, of course, but memories stored in your brain that are much like a cache of frequently enacted tasks for your muscles. It’s a form of procedural memory that can help you become very good at something through repetition, but in […] Read More »

WHAT WILL THEY THINK?

Over the past few years, the same questions keep coming up. What will they say if I don’t drink? What will happen if I don’t go to the off-training party? Will they make fun of me? Some of my partners drink a lot. Will they trust me? These are often questions of someone who is […] Read More »

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, TAKE CARE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Thousands of deputies are husbands and wives. Thousands also spend countless hours on the job, picking up overtime, training and so on. As a result, they have limited time at home. It goes without saying that although busy schedules help with the household income, they can also put pressure on marriages. In his Letter to […] Read More »

YOU’RE MORE THAN A WORD

When I first heard the word “alcoholic,” I used to think of a bum living on the street. My imaginary alcoholic had not bathed or taken care of their physical hygiene for months and had lost most of their teeth. My alcoholic would have a brown paper bag clutched in his hands or in his […] Read More »

MISSING THE SIGNS

You’re invited to a birthday celebration for your friend’s wife at your favorite bar. Your spouse accompanies you, and there are several other couples at the gathering. Some of them are co-workers and some are single. Everyone is having a good time, and you, especially, are enjoying the festivities. You arrived with a buzz since […] Read More »

The Lost Sheep

In my first few ride-alongs with deputies in the West Hollywood Station, I’ve been asked, “What does a chaplain do?” The short answer is this: It’s about presence. It’s about chaplains being with you as you do your everyday work, listening and providing whatever support is needed, on or off duty. It’s simply about serving […] Read More »