The Chaplain's Notebook


“Courage is contagious. When a brave man takes a stand, the spines of others are often stiffened.” — Billy Graham

Such true words. We see them in effect every day. But bravery isn’t only limited to taking a stand; sometimes bravery is found in learning to sit. I’ve known plenty of brave men and women who have found wellness in learning to sit down … with a safe and trusted advisor.

It takes courage to know when we’re in over our head. That’s when we need to call for backup. I’m not only talking about when we are in uniform, responding to a call or in the thick of something heavy. I’m talking about everyday moments when things get tough.

Sometimes the need for backup is discovered in a conversation with a friend or spouse — we realize we’re tired, worn out and in need of help. Other times, it’s after we’ve experienced a moment that has left us considering why we think the way we do. Each of us has had that moment when we realize, “I’m not OK; I need help.”

“Courage is contagious. When a brave man (or woman) takes a seat, the minds and hearts of others are often emboldened.” — Marty Walker

At some point, we will share with others about the time we “took a seat” and learned to be healthier in doing so. They may say, “Wow, you really knew when to call in for backup. That took some real strength and wisdom. I’ll have to remember that. I’ll have to do that myself!”

It’s OK to ask for help. We don’t have to — nor are we meant to — go it alone … especially when there are so many who have gone before us and could come alongside us in the midst of what’s happening right now.

Find a safe and trusted advisor … and bravely take a seat!